Sunday, November 29, 2009

Help Aunty's research on the origins of spanking

I am doing some research looking at the origins of the spanking fetish.

I would be most grateful if members of the spanking community could help out with this survey.

What I want to know is:

  1. When did you first realize you were interested in spanking? How did you know?
  2. What do you think caused you to develop your spanking fetish? For example, were you spanked as a child? Did you see a spanking in a movie? Basically, I'm looking for your own personal theory about what lead to you being a spanko today.
You can respond through the comments, or by email to aunty.agony(at) Please indicate if you are:
  • Male, female, transexual
  • Top, bottom or switch
I will publish the results on this blog and will be writing a paper for publication in a scholarly journal - some of the data will be drawn from this survey. I would be willing to share the paper with interested survey respondents.

Many thanks in advance!!

UPDATE: Please don't forget to mention your gender and whether you're a top/bottom/switch. Thanks!

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Anonymous W said...

I'm a hetero male top, 48 years old. My fetish developed around 7, I think. (Or maybe all people go through spanking-fascination around 7 and then lose it, while I didn't.) How I did know? Because I fantasized about it all the time, I suppose, and because that got me very excited (when I was young just in my mind, and when I was older also physically.)

Although I have been spanked regularly (and quite hard, bare bottom, over the knee, etc.) as a child, I think my fetish is largely genetic. If I hadn't been spanked, the fetish might have taken another shape, though.

See my blog if you want to get an impression of what exactly excites me, as it's not only spanking.

11/29/2009 01:09:00 AM  
Anonymous Casey's Belly said...

Mate, heterosexual, married for 40 years.

I have had this fascination - I hesitate to use the word fetish - probably because it is so appropriate - for as long as I can remember, and certainly before I reached a double-digit age.

My upbringing was liberal, in a 50s way, and punishments for me and my brother were rare, quickly over and not too painful.

Why I became so infatuated with CP is still a mystery to me, and was often a cause of shame and soul-searching, particularly at those religious moments we all seem to have from time to time.

A quote - which I am unable to quote precisely, said something about 'A twisted nerve, a ganglion gone awry, determines the sinner or the saint'.

As W says in the post above this, it appears to be part of my being me, and has been for more than 50 years. I am a reader and occasional writer rather than an active player, and as such neither top nor bottom. I feel almost equally attracted to caning and being caned, but sadly, it is all imaginary.

I hope, but rather doubt, this helps with your research; thank you for initiating the topic.

11/29/2009 03:17:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a heterosexual male. I have been fascinated with spanking since I was a child. I saw a second grade girl get paddled once when I had gone to the bathroom. She was paddled on her panties by her teacher, they did not know I was there. I was punished as child by my parents, and paddled once in the fifth grade. I have since been into spanking as an adult. It is just part of me now. There have been many exploits since then, but I want bother with those details.
I am definitely a dominant but I also on occasion, let someone spank me, but only females. I hope this helps your survey. I really was not sure how much you wanted as feedback details.

11/29/2009 05:11:00 AM  
Blogger storynattie said...

In first grade. It was then I started imagining massive epics where I lived in a school where all teachers spanked, and spanked often. I thought I was "special" because they expected more of me and spanked me more often.

I, too, think it was genetic. Although spanking activates sexual feelings, and didn't I once read that kids can experience those feelings as early as 5 or 6? So maybe it was just as simple as I got spanked and a part of me liked it. I don't know.

However, it seemed that my elementary school was pretty obsessed. Every year, from Grade 1 through 5, there was a paddle talk. Each teacher had their own, special paddle, all different. On the first day, we were shown this paddle and told spanking stories of past naughty students.

In Grade 1, my friend's teacher played an April Fool's joke and pretended she was going to spank the whole class. In Grade 2, my teacher pretended to spank one of her pets. We were at a normal elementary school, but... wow. And the principal had a paddle, too, which you did not want to have to be sent for, believe me.

When I was in high school, a teacher got fired for paddling a boy, so... times changed. :-)

I was also spanked as a child, but I hated every single one. My fantasies, at a young age, tended to revolve around the difference between loving spankings, well-deserved, and not.

Now I write down those epics I fantasized about as a child.

11/29/2009 10:00:00 AM  
Anonymous American Cernunnos said...

2. What caused me to spank? In response to your question, I was spanked -- beaten, really -- as a child, but I hated it and I rarely spanked my own children. My current interest in spanking has nothing to do with that. I have been married twice and have never hit a woman and am not a violent person, I would never spank in anger. I also have no fetishistic interest in spanking, BDSM bores me or creeps me out, I have never dreamed about spanking anybody else or wished for it. I spank my girlfriend because it makes sense and it feels right. She has a beautiful, round bottom that begs to be spanked, and she does things that can't be explained in any other way than by understanding that she wants me to spank her. Of course she protests and complains when I do it, but that doesn't make it any worse for me (and I should mention that even when she's mad, her pussy is soaking wet after she has been spanked). We used to argue about stupid things, we called it "going down the rabbit hole." At the end of such an argument I realize I am being a fool, debating ambiguities, tone of voice, unobservable intentions. She comes up with explanations that mock me and insists they are true, and there is no point in trying to prove anything one way or the other. There is also no point in allowing her to get away with that, I know life would become intolerable if I just shrugged and let it happen. She is spunky and exciting and full of life and I don't care to change her -- she is in her fifties too -- but I can't let myself be her throw-rug either. We have a way that she lies on my lap so I can cradle her head and shoulders with my left arm and sometimes kiss her while my right hand is pinkening her bottom, it is very romantic and sexy, in case you can't tell I spank her because I love her. Sometimes she is mad after I have spanked her and refuses to have orgasms as if she was punishing me by depriving herself of that pleasure, but I think she is exquisitely sexy when she's seething with self-righteous anger, so it works out fine for me. Spanking for us is a way of expressing something profound in a loving relationship between two mature people, it helps us preserve our self-respect while respecting one another. And, Auntie, you should see her bottom with a beautiful pink blush on it, it is the most beautiful thing in the world.

11/29/2009 10:12:00 AM  
Anonymous American Cernunnos said...

Aunty, this is a little long so I will post it in two pices. Though I am normally a lurker I would like to answer your questions. I am not a member of any spanking community, I don't know any other spankers, don't go to spanking parties or talk about it with anyone. I spank my girlfriend but don't have any special interest in the act except that I want to do it right, I want it to have maximum effect and don't want to hurt her. I don't care to be part of any "scene," I only want to burn her butt occasionally (and I enjoy it when she burns mine). I follow the spanking blogs to pick up pointers.

1. When did I first realize I was interested in spanking? I am almost 60 years old, and I was never interested in spanking until about two years ago, when I realized how incorrigibly mischievous my girlfriend was. (Plus, you should see her ass, anybody in their right mind would want to spank her just for the sheer physical pleasure of it.) I tried reasoning with her, I tried understanding her, I listened to her justifications for her behavior, and it was only frustrating and resulted in endless arguments that neither one of us enjoyed. Almost from the very start of our relationship I wanted to spank her, though she was indignantly dead-set against it. Through some experimentation I found that laying her across my lap and pinkening her bottom not only acknowledges and complements her mischievousness, it also makes my dick stiff. I believe she often does the things she does, flirts and teases with people and says things to me, just so I will spank her, even though she denies that. I should note that I don't spank her "for" something, she is smart enough to make sure I don't really know what she does and if I punished her for particular acts she would just hide them even better from me. Spanking is not punishment, it's a kind of tonic for us, something we both enjoy. She also enjoys asserting that she doesn't enjoy it. It is a mysterious sensible thing with sexual overtones.

11/29/2009 10:12:00 AM  
Anonymous Hanks Sara said...

Sara - 37

My parents were my role models. As I grew up was always aware of how my Dad catered to my Mom. I told myself I wanted a husband who was as devoted to me as my Dad was to Mom. When I was away at college I returned one Xmas a day early. As I walked in the kitchen I saw my Dad bent over the table bare bottomed and my Mom was spanking him with his belt. I recall he had welts from the belt.
After an awkward few hours my parents sat me down and explained that this was how they dealt with things.

Later when I married my husband Hank began playing with drugs. I laid down the law and well long story short he agreed if I found any drugs he
would submit to spanking

Now 12 years later Hank knows to submit and I have a devoted husband who needs weekly reminders of who is in charge.

11/29/2009 04:15:00 PM  
Anonymous W said...

A thing that I think might be related to forming a spanking fetish is siblings. Or, more precisely: witnessing siblings getting spanked.

Related to this, I used to have the theory that spanko's generally are oldest children (although I know both spanko's that are youngest as well as spanko's that are an only child.)

And I think Freud considered the spanking fetish being a form of sibling rivalry. Read his A child is being beaten. (And everyone knows that Freud's daughter, Anna Freud, was a spanko, right?)

11/30/2009 12:21:00 PM  
Blogger BareSpanker said...

First realization: very very young. Don't know exaclty.

Cause: something formative. It wasn't being spanked, I'm sure. It must have been something I saw that "imprinted" on me just at the right time during my childhood psyche's developmental stages. It could have been just hearing about spanking. Or seeing a provocative bottom. Or seeing a cartoon with spanking. Just at a particualr day when the brain is developing some nueronal pathways in the area of the brain that is connected to eroticism. If I had been crawling around on the floor and instead saw my mother's shoe at just the right time then instead I'd have a shoe/foot fascination for the rest of my life. It must be something like that.

gender: Male

Orientation: Switch

11/30/2009 05:16:00 PM  
Blogger Westmerian said...

I first became interested in spanking at the age of 4. Although I was occasionally spanked by both parents during childhood, I certainly didn't enjoy it. In fact I resented it bitterly and still do. Spanking someone without their consent is abuse and perpetrators should be made to do community service - picking up litter or scraping the chewing gum of the pavements.

However, I was very excited by seeing other children spanked, particularly at school - and there was a lot of spanking at infant schools (in England) in the mid 1960s. Also, most of the spanking was on the bare thighs, so it was immediately visible if someone had been punished. One of my teachers was always saying, "A smack a day keeps the doctor away".

One of my most vivid memories is of a girl being spanked during assembly and seeming to quite enjoy it. I don't remember her name - I just remember her as the pretty girl with nice legs who was spanked and enjoyed it.

I am male, 48 years old, a "switch" and heterosexual (mostly). This is the first time that I've really shared this information with anyone, so I hope that it will be of some help.

12/01/2009 11:56:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I´m a hereosexual male and realized my fetish on spanking as child.
I remeber watching films from the 50th were women were spanked quit regular ;)
And I remeber how exited I was watching these short szenes.
I was not (realy) aroused because my sexuality was not build but interessted.. fascinated.
Many years later I´ve learned that Im not the only one who is "into" this and that it is absolutely normal to feel that way.
Can you image how surprised I was when I first typed "spanking" into a search engine (pre-google.. could be altavista maybe)

12/02/2009 12:00:00 PM  
Blogger davidamkn said...

Hi Aunty,
I'm a hetero male 59 and married.
I have been a spanking enthousiast for as long as I can remenber. Probably from the age of 4 or 5. I can't say why, I was not spanked as a child, maybe slapped a few times. I did see a few playfull spankings and they would really excite me. From about 8 onwards When a saw women in heels and skirts I would fantasize about being spanked by them, it was just about a day long obsession. I am lucky enough to have a wife that indulges my fantasy, even when we were dating. I still remenber the first time I was taken across her knees and bared for a few slaps, it was a dream come true, and there have been many since
Happy spankings to all your fans

12/03/2009 07:11:00 AM  
Blogger SPANKEDHORTIC said...

Male, bottom, heterosexual, 43.

1/ Ever since I can remember, about 3 years old (I think). My attention was grabbed by anything about spanking, fictional or factual.

2/ I am a believer in the genetic theory. I was smacked as a child but very infrequently and lightly, nothing that you would call a real spanking, I do not think that this is responsible for my fetish.


12/03/2009 12:53:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I was not only interested but really turned on by spanking at least as early as maybe 6 . I was never spanked as a child. There was paddling in my schools but I was never turned on by that. There was always a clear separation in my mind between playful or sexual spanking and the actual thing as punishment.

I'm over 60 now. Don't practice the art any more but it still plays a big role in my fantasies. Clearly this sexual mode is deeply engrained. I may have been this way from birth. So the genetic theory seems likely, unless there was some very early child experience that I cannot remember but affected me deeply.

12/03/2009 05:01:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Female, 21 year old, bottom

I remember being fascinated with spanking for as long as I can recall, maybe age 5 or 6? I was spanked occasionally as a child, but I don't think that had any impact on my fetish.. I'd see a scene in a movie or show and think about it for days, replaying it in my mind. I didn't know why I enjoyed it so much. At that age, even with no conception of sex or fetish, I knew that I wanted to be spanked..had no clue why.

I had a boyfriend who spanked only during sex, no fetish though. Then I met my girlfriend (yea, i'm bisexual)
My first punishment spanking blew my mind. After drinking a TON one night at the bar, my girlfriend was taking me home. Well, after giving her a lot of attitude, she pulled over and told me to walk home (she was kidding) but I was drunk and belligerent, so I jumped out and began taking my clothes off and throwing them on her car apparently and calling her names. After wrestling me to the ground, she took me home and put me in bed. The next time she saw me and I was sober, I was in big trouble. We were sitting in her car and she brought up the drunken episode. She told me that while it was cute, it made her angry because I hadn't listened to her. She pulled me over her knee and pulled down my pants. And then she spanked me really hard and fast for quite a while. I was so shocked. She held me down, pressing her left hand onto my back and spanking my bare ass, telling me I was a bad girl and she was gonna make me sorry. She even got close to my limit. I almost said the safe-word, which takes a lot. She stopped for a second, I was out of breath and shifting around a lot, I was on fire. She made me answer questions next, spanking super hard for wrong answers. Why are you being punished? And are you gonna be a good girl? What's gonna happen to you if you misbehave again? HUH?! That's right baby, I'll give you a spanking. Don't you dare do this again or you'll be sleeping on your stomach for a week. Now tell me you'll be a good girl.

And then she rubbed it and let me up, held me and told me she loved me...Our relationship is solid. Although I sometimes can't help but pick fights to make her put me over her knee :)

12/04/2009 02:44:00 PM  
Blogger peter said...

I fell in love with spanking in a strange way. i had my first cigarette spanking and sexual releif on the same day.
I was around the house of a teacher who i adored (teachers pet). I noticed she had left her hand bag open and i could see her cigarettes. I took one and felt really grown up. I did not feel really grown up an hour after my first cigarette. bent over her knee
recieving a very heavy bare bottom
spanking. However during the spanking although my bottom was warming by the second i found that some thing else was warming to.
To cut a long story short on the way home i releaved my self for the first time. Ever since then i relate spanking with sex.
i still fantasise over my teacher now

12/06/2009 06:24:00 AM  
Blogger Curtis said...

I am a male heterosexual switch. I was probably wired for spanking since birth, but realized it in the second grade when a very pretty teacher picked up one of my classmates, put him over one knee while leaning against a wall and gave him a birthday spanking which produced sexual feelings in me. From that point on all my masturbatory fantasies involved spanking -- spanking a woman or being spanked. I did what many did -- look up the word in the dictionary, look for passages in book, look for it in the movies and in comics,go to libraries and book stores to read accounts of spanking in child psychology books. My ears would pick up whenever someone mentioned spankings and felt warm feeling when women -- aunts, friend's parents, teachers -- threatened spankings. Was rarely spanked at home and when I did, it had no sexual connotations. But, in a particularly loveless childhood, spanking also became a hint of loving emotional connection.

I realized I was not alone in my eighth grade year via two things. I had started early -- the year before -- playing spanking games with other children with me being the spanker. There was a neighbor girl whose skirt I pulled up and whose panty clad (not very) bottom I spanked. And she managed to come over ever few days because she enjoyed spanking and wanted me to spank her. I also had a music teacher at the time who tended to bring classroom discussion to spanking about every other class and once allowed that spanking was "fun."

I played spanking games from seventh grade on, with one exception only as a spanker -- worried that the other way it would hurt, although when I spanked, I spanked to produce pleasure (and still do). It was my girlfriend of three years duration in college who decided that she'd like to turn the tables and I found that getting spankend was arousing.

I'm 72, and withg the exception, of a very unhappy 20 year hiatus (a longer story not intrinsic to your study), I have played spanking games, go to spanking parties, host parties at my house. But my involvement is as it always has been to give or receive stinging pleasure -- spankings that are fun, play, sensual, erotic and, with the right person, sexual. Had a steady partner for four years -- and would love to have one now.

12/06/2009 08:54:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a heterosexual female and I have been fascinated with spanking since I was a 10 or 11 years old. I wish I could tell you why, but I really dont know...

I was brought up in Sweden were spanking of children is forbidden since over 20 years back. I was never spanked as a child, nor was any of my friends. When it comes to children I think the Swedish legislation against spanking is a good thing (you do not have to beat a child in order to get it to obey).

Spanking is never discussed in Sweden unless it is discussions about how horrible it is. Even when its between adults.

Still I have this facination for spanking, I gess it has to do with the domination part. However if you tell someone in my country that you think spanking might be fun you are conciderd to be a real perverted pervert (not in a good way)

12/07/2009 07:52:00 AM  
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12/08/2009 01:29:00 PM  
Anonymous paddy p said...

1 I was spanked of and on as a child up to 10 with no obvious real affects.
However as a 15 year old after a brief row with my Aunty to my horror I ended up over her knees.Though humiliating and shocked I actually enjoyed it. I knew because I went back for more ....and got it.
2 Funilly enough it was looking at stocking tops that led me to my spanking at 15 and I've always put the two together, when my Aunty but me over her that time she pulled her skirt first showing me suspenders and stocking tops et all.
I'm a male in my late 50's and still go to a lady every now and then to receive my puinishment.
My wife knows in fact it was her suggestion.

Paddy P.

12/09/2009 08:02:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Aunty; Sent you one to your gmail. Long time no spank.

The virgin Butt

12/09/2009 11:23:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Aunty, my favorite spanking blogger: I'm 29, female, bi and a switch. I was not spanked as a child, mom is very much against spanking children. She firmly believes, though, that it is teenage girls who need firm discipline. She started spanking me and my two sisters when we turned 14 and continued it through college and beyond. At first I hated the spankings, but around 161/2 I gradually began to look forward to them. They wd excite me erotically and I would masturbate afterwards and it was more pleasurable than other masturbations. I would wish that she woould spank more often and harder. She herself was and is regularly spanked by dad, so she knows very well what it feels like.
Now we talk about our reactions to spanking and they are very similar. My older sister is a spankophile while the younger is not.

During our college years we were under her discipline when we were home on vacations. And when she came to visit at college (twice x semester or so) she would bring the paddle, strap and cane (after 18)and use them repeatedly for "maintenance". Now that we are all three adults she will spank, if we ask her to, and only very occasionally on her own accord. Thus she caned me thoroughly last week when I asked her to. In August when she and I travelled to California to visit relatives she brought along the implements and used them repeatedly on my butt.

Other women have told me that they too awoke to find spanking exciting at 16 or 17, and that their moms kept up the spanking into their adulthood. This seems to be one of the paths to spankophilia. Best regards, Beth

12/10/2009 01:52:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Male, 45. Submissive.

I was given a bare hand spanking at my apartment after my 30th birthday OTK totally naked. The feeling of her being in TOTAL control was very arousing.

She told me had she known ahead of time she would have brought her PADDLE! I shuddered, which warranted another spanking.

We kidded about it and every so often a female friend pokes fun that I need a spanking. Nothing ever happens, but I do get a 'cheap thrill'.

As long as I could trust her, I would be willing to submit.

12/10/2009 06:08:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a 40 year old heterosexual male switch. I was spanked bare bottomed OTK during my preschool years by my mother and I saw my female cousins spanked in the same fashion by their mother. I always thought the latter had a greater effect on me. I've always felt there are multiple reasons why one becomes a spankophile -- our sexual grid is somewhat somewhat genetic (nature) and our life experience (nurture) imprints on us in various ways. Though the latter becomes trickier -- I've known girls who were never spanked who were into it because they seemed to miss that discipline in life. And I've known others who were spanked as kids -- some who were into it in later life and other who were not. So while I think there is something to the eroticized trauma theory, I think it is much more complex then that. I can, however, pinpoint when I went from being more of a top to a switch. I was paddled by a sadistic teacher in 6th grade and I made an inner vow to never let someone make me cry from a spanking again. From that time on, I wanted to be spanked in order to keep pushing the threshhold of how much I could tolerate. But I've always been interested in spanking as long as I can remember. I always want to "play house" and be the dad dishing out the spankings to cute girls' (hopefully bare) behinds. And I've always incorporated spanking (both giving and receiving)in my relationships, from my first girlfriend through my 20 year marriage today.

12/11/2009 10:52:00 AM  
Blogger Dave The Rave said...

I am a 45-year-old white male and my last "real" spanking came after I turned 30. On a dare, my friend took me over her knee with me naked and used her bare hand and spanked me. When she finished she said she wished that she had brought her PADDLE!!!!

A few playful swats have happened afterwards, but that was my last "real good" spanking. Nothing beats being totally naked, over a woman's lap and being under her complete control! I was aroused, my manhood was 'active', but kept in check by her.

12/13/2009 10:59:00 AM  
Anonymous May said...

When I was around 12, me and two of mine would spank each other (but with clothes on) as punishment when we had committed various offenses against each other.
Ever since then I've been quite a bit into spanking.

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12/15/2009 12:12:00 PM  
Anonymous dave said...

60 years old, hetero, male, switch...

I developed an interest in spanking as a teenager. I went to an all-boys school in England where spanking with the slipper (actually a plimsoll) was very common, and with the cane used for more serious offenses. I saw other boys being slippered by prefects and masters pretty much every day, was slippered myself by prefects several times and was caned once by the headmaster.

I didn't enjoy getting the slipper or cane back then but it was exciting to see other boys bend over and receive three hard whacks from a gym shoe on their tightly stretched trousers or PE shorts.

Once I started getting interested in girls (around 14 or 15) I started to get these erotic thoughts about how we boys were under the threat of being spanked at any time at our school, but the girls with their soft sexy tender bottoms never had to worry about being slippered or caned, and how much fun it would be to see one of the girls I fancied bend over for a slippering or caning from a teacher, or even better to spank one of those gorgeous sexy female bottoms myself.

Later when I was 17 I became a prefect and was allowed to slipper other boys for minor offenses but I got no pleasure from it. But when a few years later I had a girlfriend who let me spank her (and seemed to enjoy it) I was confirmed as a spanko for life.

12/19/2009 08:03:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Iam a 49 year old spanko. What causedme to want to spank women was due in part of being sexually abused by a man when I was 7 years old and when to relatives of a neighbour(female cousin and her mother), asked me to comein and wait for my neigbour. The grandmother asked what my age was and I told her. She then told me to oput myself over her knee. I complied like whrn I was about to be spanked by my parents for doing wrong. I thenpulled down my trousers and underwear and was then over her knee and was spanked. Then I was told to go to her daughter and complied again. They both felt my bottom before and after spanking me.

There were times I dreamed of getting even with girls that mistreated me at my grammer school and somtetimes did even even when we would play in the Southeatsern part of my first Grammer school. I would invite them to play with me and some would come. Then, I would say that I needed to inspect them. After feeling them aorund their bottom, I would say, I needed to see a reaction when I would swat their bottom, They would drop their panties and I would swat them hard. I then felt good and the girls I invited loved it when I swatted thier bottom.

Then when I was 12, I decided to get even and once in a while, chased a girl in my classroom and spanked her bottom in class. I was caught by a female Teacher and I promised I would not do it again. When I was in High school, I got a chance to swat a few cheeerleader bottoms after they praticed. They felt sorry since I had no girlfriend. So, I got to do itto one of them in a wooded area with thier pants and panties down.

Since I am married now,I will not do it even though she let me do it on our honeymoon. I honestly feel that when that man took me in the gas station restroom and spanked me and my friend's grandmother and his female cousin told me to drop my pants and underwear so that htye gave me birthday spanks, caused me to be a Spanko.

12/21/2009 12:30:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm 46 years old and a male bottom. I started having spanking fantasies when I was six or seven and would fantasize about being spanked by my older sister's female friends. I was spanked growing up and it was no fun -- I'd get it hard with the belt on the bare -- but I don't have any idea whether my history contributed to this fetish!

12/23/2009 12:25:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hetero male, prefer to be a bottom, married 30+ years, 60 years old. I came to a realization about 15+ years ago that being spanked excited me. My wife finally agreed to cooperate. I was not spanked as a child. My start was an interest in things anal. I loved having something inserted in my anus ( I still do) and gradually realized that spanking was even better. I enjoy spanking my wife a little, but worry about hurting her and turning her off to spanking me. I like to troll the web looking for spankings, I seem to find more interest in pictures (cartoons are my favorite) or articles. Stories about spanking or movies with spanking in them do not excite me. When I am feeling bad or depressed I wish for a spanking, when my wife has cooperated, the spanking made me feel better. She refuses to spank me for punishment, she says I like it too much. I wish she would spank me beyond what I could stand, but only once did she approach that much spanking. Self spanking also makes me feel good, so my theory is that it is partly physical with me.

12/26/2009 02:12:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I am a 48 year old heterosexual male. I have liked spanking for as long as I can remember. I was spank as a child up to the age of 14. Once by a girl friends mother. My wife still uses the same paddle on me that was used when I was 8 years old forward. I am spanked about 3 times a year and have to ask for a session. She spanks very hard and it for what ever reason makes me feel better about myself. At the same time a also have feelings of guilt for liking it as much as I do. In my early teen years I would masterbate after a session to settle my self down. I ejaculated in the lap of the friends mother when I was 14 and at times will do the same in my wife's lap even thought I know I am getting punished.

12/26/2009 06:51:00 PM  
Anonymous Farmgirl said...

I am a female bottom age 37. I was raised by my grandmother and was spanked frequently as punishment growing up, which I did NOT like. When I was about 7 years old I was spanked in play by my male cousin, two years older than me, and it was then that I realized (as vaguely as I could at that age) that I liked it. I guess I knew because ater that first time I tried to get him to spank it again and again, and to do it on my bare bottom, and he kindly obliged! To me it was attention and affection from a boy I liked a lot, which otherwise I didn't have much of.

In addition to my cousin, with whom I had an ongoing, playful spanking relationship up into my early teens, I then had a couple of other similar relationships, and there was no doubt in my mind by this time that I was a committed bottom. If I met a hunky boy the first thing I did was imagine what it would be like getting spanked by him. I probably didn't understand the term "submissive," though, until I was grown and I entered into a M/f relationship with the guy I subsequently married (and am still married to!).

Basically I think a person is 'hard wired' into liking spanking, to use a term I've heard elsewhere. You have this 'switch' in your brain, buried in your sexual persona. It takes some overt life experience to turn the switch 'on,' but you're born with it, and once it turns on you can never turn it off.

I think this is confirmed by all the people who say that they had no childhood experience with spanking, like I did, but came by their interest spontaneously. Their 'switch' never got turned on early in life like mine did.

1/05/2010 01:04:00 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I'm female 25 and I suppose a bottom.I live in the Uk and live at home with my divorced Mum!She started spanking me when I was about 12 years old before that a few slaps 'in the right' place sufficed. However when I was about 15 My Aunt came to live near us and often took part in the spankings.That really turned me on-two females spanking my bare bottom after taking me to my room and undressing me.She also suggested I should get the cane for some matters e.g.-coming home late or a poor school report! That really hurt and I had up to 10 strokes as I bent over a chair!The stiniging pain did make me cry sometimes!As I got older the number of strokes increased and I often got a short spanking first!I still felt excited by the my punishments,so I can say that my interest and wilingness to accept a moderate spanking developd during my teens. I was punished until I was over 23 by Mum and I remember vividly going up stairs with her 3 or 4 times after my 23rd birthday for a caning on my bare bottom which I looked forward to although she caned me quite hard at that age!Part of it was the anticipation, being undressed and then caned on the bare.I do miss those days and I am thinking of some reason to suggest I deserve one ! Sue

1/24/2010 10:44:00 AM  
Blogger vs-boy said...

I am a 41 year old hetero male in-the-closet bottom.

I had a dream when I was 4 where I went to my granpa and asked him if he would please hit me with his belt. This is the earliest I remember feeling this type of excitement. I was not usually spanked as a child, but my dad used a belt on me sometimes.

1/25/2010 06:21:00 PM  
Blogger vs-boy said...

I am a 41 year old hetero male in-the-closet bottom.

I had a dream when I was 4 where I went to my granpa and asked him if he would please hit me with his belt. This is the earliest I remember feeling this type of excitement. I was not usually spanked as a child, but my dad used a belt on me sometimes. I did not like punishment and have no idea why all of a sudden this dream gave me pleasure. before I was 12 I was already experimenting wirh self spanking, enemas and anal play. This all happenned before I even saw or read porn, so I have no explanation for it.

1/25/2010 06:25:00 PM  
Anonymous Annie said...

31 years old, female

I really don't know where my interest in spanking came from. I was spanked growing up until I was 18.

If I had to guess, I would say my fascination started in elementary school, probably 4th or 5th grade. I would usually try to listen when I knew some kid was about to get paddled at school to see if I could hear the swats. Sometimes I could, sometimes not.

By the time I got to be a teenager, my mom actually tried to stop spanking, but I would beg her to spank me when I felt like I needed it. I felt like I needed the instant punishment that a spanking provided so that I would know what I did was wrong and I could move on.

Even now I still feel like I need a spanking to correct bad habits when everything else I have tried doesn't work.

1/28/2010 07:35:00 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

fannyfire...45 year old male

I first realized that I was a spankophile at age 5 while sitting on the stairs with a sore bottom from having just been spanked. I thrilled throughout my childhood to hear of or witness my friends and neighbor kids getting spankings. Whenever I came across a reference in a book or a movie I was in heaven.

Sadly, most of my experience has come via liasons with "professionals" but that is OK by me. I am a sub at heart but would not mind switching to spank a naughty girl's bottom

2/03/2010 09:10:00 PM  

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